Friday, 25 February 2011

Why are you still in your School Uniform?

I often feel I neglect my kids.
"Go outside and play", I say.
"Haven't you got jobs to do"?
"Who's on dogs"?
"Why isn't the table set"?
"Who left lego all over the lounge room floor"?
"Why are the chooks still out"?
Some days it feels as though this is the only dialogue I throw their way.
And I go to bed every night thinking tomorrow will be different, tomorrow I will listen with both ears when they tell me of their day at school.  Tomorrow I will be calmer, tomorrow I won't raise my voice.  Tomorrow I will talk, watch, play, be an active member in their lives.
And yesterday I did.  At least for a little while.
Walking back from the yards with Sally after locking the milker's calves away, just as the sun was dropping low.  "Mum, come and watch us on the trampoline", the other three chorused from the front yard.
And instead of telling them I had to go and start dinner, I did.
They set me up a chair.  And I watched.  And I took photos. 

And I worried about them hitting their heads on low hanging branches. 

And we talked.

As the sun sent its last golden rays across us.

About Ben 10 watches, and other equally important issues.

And because it ended up so late, and Dad wasn't going to be home...

...we had toast for tea.


  1. Fiona, I feel exactly the same way on a daily basis. Nag, Nag, Nag. The same stuff over and over again. Great choice to stop and enjoy your beautiful kids. They look like they get on famously (which helps)

  2. Beautiful post - glad to see your kids playing together so well! Are they like this all the time, or do they have their moments??

  3. These are the moments that matter the most but it is a constant battle to remind ourselves of that.

  4. They look like they are gorgeous country kids Fiona. You must be doing something right!!

  5. Every night I go to bed I wonder if I were to be hit by a bus, would their only memory of me be me nagging them? I know one day when they are on the other side of the world and they never call, I'll wonder what the hell I was doing when they were under my wing that was so much more important.
    Although having said that, I must have played at least 50 games of Snakes & Ladders in the last week.

  6. Beautiful reminder to us all - thanks! Time slips by so quickly and when we look back, these are the most important moments that we'll remember and so will they - not what we had for dinner.

  7. Lovely, lovely, lovely... boiled eggs are often on the menu at SJW as I too am trying to stop and be still with my three. gxo

  8. The same thoughts cross my mind every night too. And yes dads not going to be home tonight and we will probably be having eggs on toast for tea. better go and collect those eggs....

  9. so glad I am not the only one...I wonder some evenings if they ever get sick of me asking/nagging/yelling for them to do stuff (and I wonder if they realised that if they just DID it, the same thing they have to do every day, then the asking/nagging/yelling wouldn't much anyhow!)

    lovely afternoon light, I just love the late evenings!

    and when dad isn't home here, toast or baked beans or even cereal, are popular on the menu! (and bonus, minimal cooking!)

  10. Hi. It's so easy to get caught up in the busyness of the day and hurry to get everything done - it's totally understandable and everyone does it - and it's usually the mum who is the nagging adult. I was a great one for doing it. It's nice to just throw all that out the window sometimes, sit back and relax and forget the timetable - and toast for tea - totally acceptable in my mothers' handbook!

    Your photos just keep getting better and better. Would you share the course and book details here?

    My news that's keeping you in suspense? The situation that Drew went into in Canada had changed a few days before his arrival and was not as we expected. It's being worked on and we hope to have an outcome very soon. I only want to
    mention it on the blog once so as not to go on about it - so I'm waiting on the positive outcome!

    Not sure how much blogging I'll get done next week with conference and cricket commitments!! Each morning on the beach we are scheduled for team building activities including tug of war, (with my build I should be very useful here), boot camp and sand sprints. I hope they have St. Johns on hand. Days are packed
    and nights are organized (a gallery viewing, dinner at Glass and a visit to Outback Spectacular). I will have to sneak away at some stage for some down time. Anyway, I'll take lots of photos as usual. Sydney will be good. I just need to find a way to leave G's phone behind or throw it out of the plane door just before it shuts so that it smashes on the tarmac. At least there'd be two days of peace before he got a new one! Mare

  11. You are delightful Mom. You keep up the good work!


  12. Sounds like a wonderful way to spend an afternoon with your kids. But they wouldnt appreciate it as much if you did it all the time, so I guess the nagging is important as well, lol.

  13. If you played with them all the time then that would become the norm and they wouldn't remember it. We all feel we get it wrong - but looking at your kids you must be doing lots right!

  14. Yeah and she can fix iPods that go through the wash and teach old blokes how to down-load.
    Hang in there Big Matt, I'm sure you're good for something.

  15. love it.

    yes, it is SO hard for me to slow down and relish the moment...there is just so much to be done! but, kids are only young once...and the laundry can wait! :)

  16. Its hard isn't it. We get so caught up in what we've got to get done and chores that we forget just to be mums. Well done on the listening ... and the toast for tea :)

  17. That made me cry. You! I'm selfishly glad you feel that way, because I feel the same, and sometimes I think I must be the worst mother in the world because I'm always barking directions at my children ... and then at night when they're in bed and asleep I get a chance to remember how beautiful they are and, compared to a lot of other children, how well-behaved they really are ... and that I'd forgotten to tell them how much I love them. And yes, I think, 'tomorrow will be different'.

    You're a fabulous mother ... and you're wonderfully honest.



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